A lot of people come to the Law of Attraction because they want to win the lottery.
I find it fascinating, because winning the lottery to me represents the cross-section of gaining something of high value and not having to work for it.
(By the way, what exactly is it about wanting something for nothing that excites humans so much?)
I also find it fascinating that many lottery winners end up completely broke within a few years of winning. They make the same poor and misguided financial decisions that they were making before, only the mistakes cost them larger sums.
The money only amplifies exactly who they were before they had it.
Watching lottery winners highlights the fact that most of us have a fear-based relationship with money. We see it as an object to be acquired rather than a symbol of everything else in our lives. Even people who think they have money figured out are infected with fears about it.
For example, someone who worries about spending money likely has a fear of losing things in his or her life. This fear is rooted in the idea that money is scarce, that money is a resource for the future, not now, that the person can avoid pain by hanging on to this money. This person clings to money and possibly other things in his or her life—and clinging too tightly to something can be a form of control.
For this person, the fear stems from what money represents to the person: security, safety, control, avoidance.
On the flip side, someone who flushes money by overspending is likely to fear money itself, so much that he or she doesn’t want to be near it. This fear could be materialistic, could be associated with guilt, or could even be due to keeping up with the joneses’.
For this person, the fear stems from what money represents to the person: escape from lack, discomfort, guilt, rejection.
Both of these relationships are rooted in fear, fear, fear. So what’s the love-based alternative?
I can’t fully answer that—but I do know that one way to find the love-based version is to stamp out the fear-based version.
I used to be addicted to money, because I bought into a lot of the fear tactics associated with it on both sides. At various times in my life, I’ve been both a hoarder and an over-spender. Only recently have I realized that a lot of the fear related to money stems from chasing money itself—seeing money as the “end” and not exploring other possibilities of getting exactly what you want in this world.
We think we need money for security, for example—but maybe instead we need to build skills that make us valuable at any age, or in any circumstance. Or maybe we need to build better relationships with our spouses or our children so that they want to take care of us, should the unforeseeable happen.
Or maybe we think we need money so we can always be comfortable—but what we actually need is to learn how to live with and accept the uncomfortable parts of life. Or maybe we need to find a different outlet for keeping ourselves calm—a hobby or passion that can re-center us.
Today’s question is one that stumped me for a long time, because it made me question what exactly I hope to accomplish on earth before I die.
Journal Q2: What is my real goal? (Alternative question: What actions would I take if money no longer had any meaning on earth, post-apocalyptic style?)
For me, my goal is to better artists’ lives so they can create the future.
(As Steve Jobs said, “Everything around you that you call life, was made up by people that were no smarter than you. And you can change it, you can influence it, you can build your own things that other people can use.”)
Extracting money from the equation has helped me realize that there are a number of other currencies in the world. Relationships, knowledge, skills, effort, passion, discipline, and attitude are just some of the currencies you may not be as flush with.
Money is still important, but I’ve gotten aligned with exactly what I’m working toward and opened myself up to other currencies that may get me to the exact same spot. This removes the fear of gaining and losing money, because it’s not the only path.
So what’s your real goal?
If you want to share your answers to this question, you can do it in a personal journal or share using the hashtag #amjournaling. Or leave a comment here!
(I’m going to be doing little posts like this for the foreseeable future. Enjoy!)
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